Relationship – trust is the key

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Every individual has his / her own perception of a relationship. As many as the number of individuals, that many number of different forms of “relationships”. The form varies, but the basic fact is the same. It implies that there is a commitment or a bond between 2 individuals, albeit for different reasons.
Now let us just figure out a few forms of relationships:
1] Parent – child relationship
2] Teacher – student relationship
3] Person to person (friends)
4] Person to person (intimate relationship)
5] Person to person (marital relations……..in-laws)
6] Employer – employee relationship
7] Husband – wife relationship

Looking at each one of these and analyzing them, we can assess that for these relationships to survive the test of time, there are various factors involved. If the foundation is firm, then the building can withstand many trials. But if the base is weak, then a mere push is enough to topple it.

In a parent-child relationship, it is utmost important that the parents trust their growing kids and give them the freedom they are entitled to. Constant nagging and an air of suspicion, prompt the children to hide facts from their parents and also turn them into rebels. But a little love, understanding and some trust can boost confidence in them and they will look up to you as their friends and will not hesitate to confide in you.

In the second type of relationship, it should be a proper two way traffic. That means the student should trust his teacher and have faith in his/her teaching. Then only can the pupil grasp what is being taught. Similarly, the teacher should also have faith in the student’s ability and encourage him to perform well.

A friendship is never complete if there is a scope for doubt or ill thoughts about one another. True friends trust each other totally, respect each other’s judgements and stand by each other through thick & thin.

The present modern world is a very ''fast” one, where a life time commitment may not necessarily be termed as marriage. Nowadays people opt for live-in relationships, which give them the feeling of intimacy that marriage has to offer and yet give each partner his /her own space. Thus trust and respect are of prime importance for such arrangements. Without that, these relationships have a very short life.

In a married woman’s life, her bonding with her in-laws is a major cause of concern. If she takes a stubborn stance and does not trust her in-laws, then there are bound to be clashes and arguments. The same holds true for the elders in the family too. Show some concern and genuine feelings for the new member in your family & you will have a happy & harmonious life together ever after.

Employer & employee relationship is altogether on a different level. The employer always likes to assert that ‘he is the boss’ and the employee is his ‘mere servant’.This attitude can back fire and show negative response from the workers.But if you show that you trust and care for their abilities, it will motivate them to give their best shot at whatever job they are assigned. Lack of faith in the capacity of the employee deters him and gives him an inferiority complex.

Finally, we come to a very delicate and sensitive relationship….that of husband & wife. My friends, the whole institute of marriage is laid on a foundation of love, faith, trust, understanding & caring. But if these qualities are missing from your alliance, then it is simply not worth it. Such relations are very strained and unhappy, where there is no dialogue between the 2 partners. And how can you expect it to last long? On what grounds will the couple live on together happily? The husband is suspicious about the wife’s fidelity and the wife, in turn, is skeptical about her husband’s commitment. Such marriages fall apart, resulting in divorce.

So it is a lesson to be learnt, that in order to have any healthy relationship, learn to trust your partner and enjoy a happy & peaceful coexistence.