Eternal bond

[sweetpoison]

It is a common belief that marriages are made in heaven. But one should realise that they are established and fulfilled on earth.
Why do we get married? A little serious thought needs to be given to this statement / question. When we come into this world we are single, when we leave this world also we are single. Then why do we need a ‘partner’ in the intermediate period of life?
Well, the only answer that you will get is that in this hectic world, full of stress and tensions, we need a companion to share our emotional burdens with and give moral support in the time of crisis. This can be achieved by choosing a soul mate that can understand you, your needs and is willing to stand by you through good times and bad.
Thus comes into existence the constitution called ‘Marriage’.
It is not that the modern day fad of living-in relationship is an answer to this need, because these relationships fade away with time………more so cause they are based on physical attraction than emotional bonding. Whereas being Indians, and with the grooming of our culture, our mind set gives prime importance to a more noble and stable relationship through marriage.
Now one will argue that there are so many cases of divorces and failed marriages, then why risk our freedom? But dear friends, these are the very relationships which are always rushed into without a proper thought. So what exactly IS marriage? It is an eternal bond that lives through all the hardships in life, and gives you a sense of belonging and being loved and cared for.
In a husband and wife relationship, the first and the prime base of marriage should be TRUST. If you trust each other, then automatically you learn to RESPECT each other. This in turn leads to an urge to do something for your partner, be supportive and also be a mode of motivation to achieve your goals in life. Mind you, marriage is like a cart and the 2 partners are the 2 wheels of the cart. For the cart to run smoothly, both the wheels have to be functional. Similarly, in marriage, there has to a mutual understanding between the 2 partners and the support & motivation should be both ways.
Marriage built on trust lasts forever. So NEVER hide anything from your partner. Even if you have ‘secrets’ from pre-marital life, openly share them with your partner and gain his / her respect, rather than have the beans spilled by outsiders and create suspicion amongst the two. When you have chosen to be with the current partner for the rest of your life, implies that you have left your past behind. Then why worry?
Another aspect of a good relationship is that both the partners should treat each other at par. In the present age, both are career minded………so encourage and support each other in their endeavours……..and not pull them down by jealousy.
Parenthood is one more phase, where both husband & wife should take equal participation. The child that you bring into this world is not the man’s or woman’s alone……it is a joint venture of love. So see that right from its infant stage, to its school days & further college /career stage, both of you take joint decisions as they are very important for the child’s future.
Monetary aspect often creates clashes amongst the partners. Since both are working, they feel that they have full right over THEIR money. But remember, in relationship, it is not YOURS or MINE……….it is always OURS. Pool in your income to make an effective budget for the family, so that besides taking care of the daily needs, your desires & fancies there is sufficient fund for saving too. This way in the time of crisis, fingers will not be raised and allegations will not be flung at each other for the sorry state of affairs.

These are some simple and basic rules. But they sure help you to establish a sound relationship, which stand the test of time. Then one can proudly say that ‘marriages are made in heaven, but executed & fulfilled on earth’

[smartgirl]

Sorry my friend i tend to differ on your theory of not to hide anything from your spouse...I know hearing something from a third person can be devastating to any spouse when the one he loves and respects has not confided in him but an husband wife relationship is a very sensive one and is like treading on glass shreds....Especially pre marital things are better left alone and not to be discussed with ur spouse..let bygones be bygones..PAst is past...concentrate on the present and plan for the future...

Cos human beings are made of certain complexities and a man is filled with a ego which hurts when spouses spill beans of previous relationships...or it can suffix to say one was involved previously without going into the gory details...similary some facts about relatives of one another or parents etc cannot be shared...Diplomacy is also the key to an happy marraige...so sharing every minute detail to gain trust is definitely not everyones cup of tea..hope you agree with me

[ganga]

Yes my friend i agree though the divorce rates are high the number of people eager to tie the knot goes on increasing cos there is no other relationship as daunting,as interesting and as complex as marraige...Also no one can deny the fulfillment one gets in having somebody their own,the family (kids) the future and our home....So though negative aspects are aplenty people jump into the whirlwind called marraige....Have never heard any married couple talk about loneliness and how many times we hve heard it from singletons that they are so loney (LONELY I AM SO LONELY...remember the song) hahaha

So conclusion that marraige will never be outdated and though the rate of divorce is increasing the rate of marraige is also on the same graphical level...SO my friends HAPPY MARRYING !!!(lol)