Move on with your life

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As we grow up and enter teenage, we get our first urge to have a relationship with opposite sex. The attraction or should one say, infatuation, is so great that the involved parties feel that they are madly in “love” with each other.

The time passes by, and then the attraction, if it lasts that long, gradually turns into real love for some. But that does not mean it is a lasting process for all. Many a times, the love that blossoms, suddenly turns sour and the relationship goes for a toss. It is at this juncture that we need a break and wish to get out of the unwanted relationship.

If falling in love was simple, then getting out of it is a very trying and difficult process. We see that the spurned lovers, girl or boy, do not take it too kindly in most of the cases and all hell breaks loose. Open a daily newspaper and you will find at least a couple of incidences where the spurned mate has gone and done something drastic to avenge the humiliation and failure of the relationship. So how does one tackle this delicate issue without offending any one of the partner involved?

To begin with, remember that love is a feeling that is mutual and two ways. It is not but one way traffic, where only one person has the crush on the other, without a reciprocated response. If that is the case, then the other person should sensibly take the cue and move out. Love is something that is very wonderful and pure; it has to be whole hearted from both the sides. It cannot be forced on to someone. If you feel that a person is trying to smother you with unwanted feelings and attention, then it is your duty to let him /her know immediately before things get out of hand. Be gentle in your response and yet firm, lest the opposite party has the intentions of taking you for granted. If you show some violent outburst to ward off affection, then probably it may be taken in a wrong spirit and the consequences will not be pleasant at all.

A calm way of handling such situation is that you confront the person involved and state firmly that you are not ready and interested in a relationship as of now. Try to have a get together where there are more friends involved and then introduce other friends to the person. For all you know, if lady luck is on your side, then this rejected candidate may come across someone who really MAY show some interest in the person.

Remember, every individual has some self respect and pride and does not like to be humiliated in public. So if you have to snap ties with someone, then, do it in a subtle way so that he / she does not get offended. Life goes on and so we too have to move on with our life. If by mistake we had entered into a wrong relationship does not mean that it is the end of the world. Try to rectify the situation in the best possible manner and see that you learn from your past experience.

Love is understanding and unconditional. If you happen to fall out of love, then too, your previous relations prohibit you from hurting the person deliberately. See to it that this being a delicate matter of the heart, is dealt with caution and restrain. Do not be spiteful and revengeful just because the relationship has gone sour. Try to analyze what went wrong and after a valid discussion on the issue, pledge to part ways in cordial manner. Break up in love bond does not necessarily mean breaking up friendship. Try to remain friends and be there for one another in testing times. This way, you will not only have a less painful heartbreak, but also have a safer life in the future.