7 Years Itch? No Way!!

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“7 years itch”…….I think this phrase came into existence because during marriage we take 7 vows, walk 7 sacred steps and pledge to remain partners for the next 7 births. Seems like a lot, isn’t it? In today’s jet set world, a person does not have time to think about the next 7 moments of his life…….so planning for the far away future is a futile exercise.

This very attitude is turning out to be the major cause of concern for many people, couples in particular. Today both the partners are very career conscious and hence many a times we see competition between the two or even ego clashes. Gone are the days when the wife meekly played the second fiddle to her dominating husband. Presently, we come across reverse scenario and husbands are complaining of their ever nagging and bossy wives. Marital status requires the 2 partners to give quality time to each other and share some special bond & commitment. But when the time factor becomes an issue comparable to a tight rope walk, then all hell breaks loose and the couple feels neglected and unwanted.

It is a very natural human tendency that demands attention, love and togetherness. Marriage is a wonderful means of achieving this by choosing your soul mate, who is also a good companion. But as time passes by, the company begins to “grow” on you. In short, you begin to lose interest in the companion as it seems a stalemate with no new excitement and facets to explore. Life becomes dull and monotonous. Who likes a daily mundane routine? Same face, same attitude, same fights and same ego clashes!!!

This is being written for couples. But remember that “variety is the spice of life” is a phrase applicable to all living beings. We possibly cannot let this happen, can we? Or else every married man & woman would go hunting for new partners if boredom caught up with them in their existing relationship. The only way we can salvage the near failing situation is by trying to create some excitement and enthusiasm in our married life.

It is utmost important for us to realize that risking our marriage for the love of career is not a wise move. Because you retire from the service / career at a stipulated time period, but marriage is a life long service to fulfill. In the present situation when the work front has a gloomy future, one cannot expect to take things for granted and ignore career. But at the same time it is essential that you give equal time and attention to your marriage responsibilities as well. As and when the time permits, please take a break from your routine and go out for a change in environment. Visit interesting, remote spots which will boost up your adventurous nature and at the same time give you some quiet, undisturbed moments with your loved one. If an outstation trip is not possible, then just shut yourself off from the external world in the most cozy and private abode………your home!! Bar all communications with others via telephones, etc. Just think that the only 2 people existing at that moment are the 2 love birds……..you & your spouse. Switch off the door bell if need be, to ward off unwanted guests. Once you set your heart to this task, the rest is easy. A hearty chat, a cozy meal for two………lovingly prepared with each other’s help, maybe some music to relax or a movie or two to catch up on the player………all this is a perfect setting for spending some quality time with your partner.

Another way of pepping up your married life is getting nostalgic! When you are together and feeling bored, just pull out your old albums and relive the wonderful moments of your wedding, your honeymoon, your baby’s first pictures or maybe even some picnics or vacations that you have enjoyed in the past. Remember, fond memories always bring a smile to your lips and revitalize the relationship.

In order to save, restore, rejuvenate your marriage, you do not need to take exceptional efforts. If you follow simple basics of the word “togetherness”, you win hands down in having the most successful relationship of all times.