Teens-a crucial period.

[zodiac_watcher]

Adolescence is a very delicate stage of growing up. The children are on the threshold of adulthood and just crawling out of their kid stage. It is like chrysalis……coming out of a secure and protected environment into a whole new wider world.
Teenagers are neither baby to be bossed around and reprimanded, nor mature like adults to be entirely on their own. It is a crucial phase and transition period for them, and we as parents need to make it a comfortable and memorable experience for them.
This is the time when they need guidance to enlighten them about the rights and wrongs in life. It is a time when they have almost come to the end of their protective field of being in school and will soon enter the outside wider world of college. With the current trends in the society, kids of affluent parents have a tendency to have a flashy and extravagant lifestyle. This in turn has an adverse effect on lesser privileged children around them. The inferiority complex developed due to this disparity in lifestyles lead the children to adopt unwanted means to achieve the dream status.
Now is the time for parents to step in and inculcate some moral values in their darlings. As said earlier, shouting at them or abusing them will make the children rebellious. Try to understand them. In order to appease them, do not pamper them. This will only make the matters worse and the children will become unreasonably demanding & arrogant.
Treat them like friends, take them into confidence and analyse the issue that is bothering them amicably. This will instil confidence in them and they will learn to respect you. If their problem is handled delicately with a desired result, they will more openly come to you for support and guidance, rather than listening to their immature friends and going wayward.
Remember, adolescence is a bridge between childhood and adulthood, so having a friend in the form of parents……….who is loving, caring, sharing and a good confidante…..is of prime importance.
In today’s wicked world sex, drugs, tobacco & alcohol are some vices which are easily adopted by the teenagers. For them it is a show of adulthood……an exhibition of proof that they are no more in cradles. A timely talk about prevention of these uncalled for ‘attractions’ is always helpful. These are modern times, so parents need not hesitate to talk to their kids about sex education and the consequences that one has to face if they are not well equipped with this knowledge.
So the bottom line is that in this crucial stage in your child’s life, be there for him /her. Be a friend and not a boss. Encourage them to enhance their skills, but do not pamper them. Teach them the value of money and to respect other people’s property & feelings.
This will definitely help them to become good human beings and confident individuals.